New Jersey single’s wild suggestion for her first date sparks outrage: ‘I dodged a bullet’

She’s a real trip!

A Jersey girl has sparked a major dating debate.

Zach, a 34-year-old software engineer from FiDi, made plans for a first date after matching with a woman from Jersey City on Hinge, but when they set the time to meet, she asked, “How am I coming?” there?” ?”

“My first reaction was, ‘Oh, this woman really wants me to call her ‘Uber.’ That’s a bit of a red flag for me, but I give her the benefit of the doubt,” Zach told The Post .

The exchange was posted to online dating coach Erika Ettin’s Instagram handle @alittlenudge and quickly generated over 370,000 views and more than 1,000 comments.

The back and forth continued with Zach providing his match with two forms of public transportation. “I think it’s the closest to Brookfield Place by boat or to the WTC (World Trade Center) on the way.”

She wasn’t impressed. “Oh. I thought you were going to send me an Uber.”

Zach, a Connecticut native who moved to the Big Apple three years ago, explained why he felt the request was taboo.

“I haven’t met you yet… I didn’t know this person’s last name, I had never seen her before,” he said.

“If I called her Uber, she would have had to send me her address, which is really weird to send to a random guy.”

He initially offered to travel to the Garden State, writing, “I don’t know of any good places for first dates. Do you have any favorites? Otherwise, I’ll suggest some things to do in Manhattan.”

When the 30-something woman said she was fairly new to Jersey and “open to Manhattan suggestions,” he gave her two options. She chose drinks at Treadwell Park in FiDi.

After the woman made it clear that she wanted him to pay cash for their trip to Gotham, Zach tried to lighten the mood by writing, “I wish you had phrased it as ‘Call me an Uber’ so I could have said, ‘You’re an Uber,’ but she never responded.

He still showed up for the date “just in case.” But when he sent her a message saying he had gotten them a place, she replied, “I’m not coming.”

He wrote back and said: “It was a bit strange” that she had asked him for an Uber, especially because he had offered to come to her place – and she replied: “I’ve been driving for almost an hour to “To meet you for the first date, not.” even for dinner. The least you could do is take over my transportation. It’s not a strange concept for a gentleman.”

Instagrammers were shocked at the woman’s courage to assume he would pay her travel bill, calling it “ridiculous,” “outrageous” and “super tacky.”

“This is the craziest thing I’ve ever seen. I’ve never heard anything like that before,” wrote one.

“I wouldn’t have believed this if it hadn’t been published,” another added.

Many criticized the woman’s logic and assured Zach he had “dodged a bullet.”

“Spending hundreds of dollars on a girl who can’t spend 15 minutes on a train, can’t communicate that she wants to be chauffeured everywhere, and calls him rude for not doing something the vast majority of people do .” Anyone who lives in NYC would find this outrageous? “That’s a no-dog for me,” one said.

Single women from all over the world said they traveled to meet Zach – with comments like “Would happily cross state lines to meet this man,” “I would actually cover my own travel from London to NYC for this date.” and “what I wouldn’t give for a man to show so much effort and consideration on a date in my city.”

Although most were on his side, some were also Team Jersey girls.

“He initially said he would offer opportunities in their area,” one said. “Then, not knowing their neighborhood, he said, ‘This changes things.'”

Despite being burned by a New Jersey native, Zach said he’s still open to dating women from across the river.

“Why should I judge the entirety of the people in a state based on one bad experience I had with someone,” he said.

He also can’t help but think about what could have been if he had traveled to the Garden State in the first place.

“I wonder what would have happened if I had just picked a place in Jersey,” he said. “Who knows, right?”